tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post534122330647972912..comments2024-02-01T02:16:29.656+03:00Comments on Devil's Mind: Emotional Rape: What Is It?Devil's Mindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10541884626112839842noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-74341184614334121182018-03-30T04:52:31.234+03:002018-03-30T04:52:31.234+03:00As someone who works in the criminal justice syste...As someone who works in the criminal justice system and has been emotionally raped I am astounded that there are no punitive ramifications for the perpetrators. Many crimes I can think of on the books, whether a simple retail theft to murder, has the same thing in common -- taking something that doesn't belong to you!! Now, taking someone's purse is a hassle and, for the most part, is something someone can typically bounce back from quickly as opposed to killing someone, but both have recourse to the victims that those who offend are held accountable for their actions. Even the crimes that seemingly only affect a defendant, such as possessing a drug perhaps, hold stiff penalties, but then you have people going around destroying lives in the same way, no regard for the person they intentionally abuse, manipulative, lie, steal and cheat from, walking around their entire life continually looking for their next prey and the cycle repeats and leaves countless victims, which is one of the things laws are supposed to protect society from, keep its citizens free from harm. These people may be some of the most dangerous as they lack empathy and don't care who gets hurt. There needs to be legislation to protect all citizens. I understand proving cases is one thing but not to have the ability to even try is criminal in itself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-27228836108300382822017-04-19T02:48:29.142+03:002017-04-19T02:48:29.142+03:00Emotional rape is part of a psychopathic agenda, i...Emotional rape is part of a psychopathic agenda, it's horrific. <br />The target is deliberately groomed and manipulated to trust and love the rapist. It is exactly how peadophiles abuse through kindness only it's adults, online dating sites allow these predators to carefully tailor a persons to suit a lead. <br />They begin with little hints, and become subtly controlling, often they'll have a pity ploy such as an abusive childhood or crazy ex to explain behaviours. Over time they establish trust & love, they are charming mixed with withdraws to condition the target. <br />These relationships end with a dramatic sustained rage towards the unsuspecting target. Emotional rape results in PTSD anxiety and suicide, the victim has lost their identity & the predator is aroused by fear. Psychopaths need to rage, they tire of the victims emotions & wed to 'win' so end relationships abruptly and with abnormal levels of contempt. <br />Malignant narcissists, borderlines etc. Have shallow emotions, you can expect to be emotionally raped if you aren't clued up or ignore red flags early on. They choose murder by suicide for their victims to prove dominance & superirority. Anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05454398540769559517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-5579016598117467322017-02-18T19:18:13.879+02:002017-02-18T19:18:13.879+02:00Yes it is and unfortunately I have experienced it ...Yes it is and unfortunately I have experienced it first hand.. I have scars to my core because of it.. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-45593474301988639272016-12-11T19:26:14.454+02:002016-12-11T19:26:14.454+02:00I was victim of homophobic bullying by a respected...I was victim of homophobic bullying by a respected female lecturer. She said that I was a 'man who couldn't make it with a woman'. I would say that she played a 'psychological rape' game. It happened within a workplace context.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-45865047236298656892016-05-04T07:26:26.742+03:002016-05-04T07:26:26.742+03:00the other reason it is not recognized is because i...the other reason it is not recognized is because it has become the norm of ads, they feed us fear, dread, stupidity and the like just to sell their products. If the law recognized it as what it is - emotional rape - then they would have to stop and maybe this country and the people would start to heal. We have been shamed into less than who we can be by not just other people but religion, politic, and business.<br /><br />It is time this really is dealt with on a larger scale.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12003118760393022566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-47179628808824882392016-03-08T15:25:25.100+02:002016-03-08T15:25:25.100+02:00This concept is impossible to understand until it ...This concept is impossible to understand until it happens. My ex was a narcissist, the final time I saw him I remember looking at him (raging) and freezing inside, I asked myself who he was and how I'd come to this situation with a stranger, who is he ?<br />I avoided any confrontation and escaped the following day. He emailed me with a list of insults blaming me for his behaviour. An apology was out of the question so I went no contact. I have never felt fear like this, I removed all traces of him from my house and got valium to help me. It took me a year to research the behaviour and motivations of a person claiming to love you yet motivated to cause you such deliberate harm without any provocation. Some people wear a mask, when it slips you see someone who is the opposite, this is frightening and traumatic. That evening I knew I'd been raped but couldn't explain how or why. <br />My understanding is that all psychopaths crave relationships based or destruction, power and control and will push boundaries to the farthest point to break you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-27806446114853466832016-02-16T00:56:42.722+02:002016-02-16T00:56:42.722+02:00I'm currently going through this and have more...I'm currently going through this and have more than one identify connected to my mind for the past 2 years and I now know what this is and know that some of their identity is Illuminati. I'm having a horrible time and my life is spied upon every second and no way of proving it since I've yet to meet the people face to face yet they know everything about me. I know of them but never physically met them. Even I dreams and it's disturbing and I feel possessed. They are completely connected to the parts of my brain that are I charge of my speech. I FEEL invaded by a presence and it gives me constant headaches. Please help me. <br /><br />lovethywillbemine@gmail.com <br /><br />Please help. I've been told that what this has done has so done me spiritual damage, and my soul is shattered. I can't breathe most days, feel like I'm dying yet they don't let me die. It's horrible trying to reason with them. I'm not at all disconnected from my reality but I've read about soul transfers from the Illuminati and THAT is what I'm scared is happening to me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-89992346601729127162015-12-04T16:44:50.157+02:002015-12-04T16:44:50.157+02:00To the idiot going on about feminazis… yes I agree...To the idiot going on about feminazis… yes I agree this needs to be better defined. Not every emotional injury and/or manipulation is "emotional rape". But this isn't about sex. I am female and it was my mother. For years and years I couldn't understand why I was reacting the way I was. It is the emotional equivalent of someone pinning you down on the floor and not stopping, when you are thrashing and screaming no and stop over and over again. And they never listen. The problem is it's an EMOTIONAL boundary being crossed, and I was literally left screaming and out of control with rage and terror and a sense of violation I couldn't recognize or understand for years after the fact. She reacted as though she was the victim, and I felt crazy, wrong and bad. It made me hate myself and blame myself because I didn't understand what was happening or why I was reacting how I was. NO, STOP etc and variations on that mean exactly the same thing as when someone is physically or sexually assaulting you. And I've experienced all of those things if anyone is tempted to say it's minimizing "real" rape. Literal rape is in many ways much worse, but I would not say it is less destructive to the person to be "emotionally raped". But (imo) emotional rape is about someone knowingly and consistently crossing your emotional boundaries, in lieu of a physical one, and ignoring any and all attempts you make to stop them. It is an experience of extreme and total powerlessness and inability to protect yourself from harm. Carehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14077886955938921004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-64593147763142631922015-08-03T06:45:10.525+03:002015-08-03T06:45:10.525+03:00How can you report people like this?How can you report people like this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-80465996142335258762014-01-19T03:48:17.960+02:002014-01-19T03:48:17.960+02:00I didn't know this term existed but this is ho... I didn't know this term existed but this is how I feel, raped raped raped, so I searched for emotional rape. I see I'm not the first one to experience this. Truth is always welcome. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05101600809542943125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-36273399543972799962013-12-17T18:32:03.583+03:002013-12-17T18:32:03.583+03:00With the one involving the woman picking up a knif...With the one involving the woman picking up a knife, the problem there is her now being seen as the abusive one. I bet if that happened with role reversal, with the woman emotionally belittling the man, then the man picking up the knife could end up in prison if it went further.<br /> It is hard to punish emotional bullying as there really is no quantifiable 'offence' that took place. It's more of a continuous and gradual thing.<br /> Same with financial conning withing a relationship 'you gave them the money, so it's not stealing' etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-81413457833101235302013-11-18T01:33:43.272+03:002013-11-18T01:33:43.272+03:00I believe I have been subject to this. This and em...I believe I have been subject to this. This and emotional abuse are very different. I have been subject to both. <br /><br />I currently have PTSD due to this and am in counselling. It is disgusting and horrible. It leaves you literally feeling raped.<br /><br />He knew what to say and when to say it. When to be kind and when to be horrible. As soon as I cottoned on to a situation he turned on me and made me feel like nothing. While he was getting what he wanted it was fine, as soon as I resisted my life became hell, to the point where I became compliant simply to make my life easier.<br />I was degraded and manipulated till I was left feeling like dirt.<br /><br />The only way to get away from these people is to literally cut them off. I survived this somehow for over a year, I cannot imagine people who manage longer. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-51813481246487287352013-11-12T02:42:04.206+03:002013-11-12T02:42:04.206+03:00I had this happen to me.I didnt know what was happ...I had this happen to me.I didnt know what was happening.I would cry a lot and I was horrified to go outside.Id get headaches abody aches.Anxiety so bad I wouldnt even go to the groshery store.I felt so scared.I had terrible dreams and wake up sweating.I called in sick because I was so afraid to go out. Then I came accrossed Narcissist abuse syndrome.I have read about this subject for 3 months.It has helped A LOT. I recomend it.I still have pain and horrible anxiety but now I know why. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-40632854542502233662013-09-24T02:07:24.249+03:002013-09-24T02:07:24.249+03:00I was hospitalized for a severe disorder requiring...I was hospitalized for a severe disorder requiring such...this was in 1988 though and it only got worse in another way after release, and not sure the term the doctor used as what got me there meant the same thing..since he did say 'emotionally raped" ; but the emotional rapist was not myself or a girlfriend (or boyfriend)..but the doctor said it to their faces...my parents. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-3564738170408081152013-08-23T02:41:57.503+03:002013-08-23T02:41:57.503+03:00I know this can and does happen. It happened to me... I know this can and does happen. It happened to me last year, and I am not over it yet. One way I know I'm not over it is I am always thinking of new and creative ways to kill this bastard,(though I would never take another life myself).<br /> About 31 years ago I was going out with a guy my age, J.Z. I was very much in love. But he left me and went back home to "mommy", or so I thought. 31 years later, he returned to my life. He had become a drinking buddy of my husband, but as soon as he found out my maiden-name, we became friends again, or so I thought. Actually, we were a little closer than him and my husband.<br /> One night, my husband and I offered him to spend the night because he was homeless without a penny. We were all out of cigarettes and money, so I asked J.Z. to go for a walk with me to pick up some butts that we could re-roll. That was a huge mistake.<br /> When we got back to my place, he asked me if we could sit outside because it was very hot in my apartment. I said sure. A neighbor had given him some kind of alcohol. J.Z. was DRUNK.<br /> He wanted to kiss me. I didn't think anything was wrong with a kiss between two old friends. But little did I know, he more than just 1 kiss in mind, if you know what I mean.<br /> He told me he still and always had loved me. I told him that was too bad. I loved my husband and was not going to leave him. He pushed me on my back porch and said he wanted to make love to me, and proceeded to kiss me and feel me up. I told him to stop it, but he wouldn't. I don't know where the strength came from, but I pushed him off of me and got up and went to go back inside.<br /> J.Z. told me either I go with him or I stay with my husband, but I had better choose. I told him if I had done something to make him think I wanted to do that I was sorry. He told me choose him or he was going to tell my husband we HAD done something.<br /> I said, "FUCK YOU, ASSHOLE!", and went into my security door and went into my apartment and slammed the door to awaken my husband, but only managed to wake my son. He knocked on my door and shouted through my window he loved me.<br /> I told him to "go fuck yourself!",and turned toward my sink. That's when my husband got up as well as my brother. My husband told him to leave and the next day he and my brother told me to call the police. I did, and they wanted my clothes. But because they didn't find any of J.Z.'s DNA on my clothing they dropped the charges down to a Disorderly Conduct Induced By Alcohol.<br /> I have not seen J.Z. since. My husband has and told him he didn't want to talk to him. The only reason I want to see him for is to slap him, kick him, punch him in his face, whatever I have to do to show him how he has hurt me. My husband and I are not as close as we were before this happened, and I blame J.Z.<br /> He has screwed up my life, and the law won't help me, so I want to take the law into my own hands. I want to hurt him, badly!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06583955163031422128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-81392202433116624592013-05-15T00:16:51.725+03:002013-05-15T00:16:51.725+03:00I'm in my mid twenties and have had a few rela...I'm in my mid twenties and have had a few relationships, and one long term relationship that ended very positively and we are still friends to this day. But last year I dated a guy for four months and was convinced he was the one. After we started to get more comfortable with each other and he knew I was falling in love with him, that's when the abusive language started to happen. He was controlling, asked me to stop talking to some of my friends, it got to the point that he didn't even want me to go out and have drinks with my friends if he wasn't with me. He had trust issues, he never apologized when he should have, he put me down emotionally. We had very similar intellectual capacities, but in the end he put me down so bad that I was traumatized at how quickly things shifted from being amazing to feeling like I was in hell without cause. I started blaming myself for anything I could, my past, karma, not being good enough, etc... but all of those things were false and I know that now.<br /><br />The best way to get over a situation like this is to remember your self worth, find strength, and continue to love others the way you'd like to be loved by someone. I am now dating a man who treats me wonderfully and doesn't lie or try to control or manipulate me. He has a pure heart and that's more than enough to heal this once broken spirit of mine. Keep your head up and eyes out because there are good people out there who will help you live the kind of life you deserve.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-57890056993859879852013-04-22T02:38:32.834+03:002013-04-22T02:38:32.834+03:00Psychotherapy is like emotional rape. It is an asy...Psychotherapy is like emotional rape. It is an asymmetrical relationship in which the therapist has power and control, and the client (victim) is vulnerable and emotionally exposed, and in a position to be exploited and manipulated after trust is given.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-12123403795324632562013-03-29T10:41:35.650+03:002013-03-29T10:41:35.650+03:00Dear anonymous, it seems that you have not read th...Dear anonymous, it seems that you have not read the post carefully. Verbal abuse and emotional rape are two different things.<br /><br />I agree with your point that crying foul on the littlest of things is not good (especially when used by lawsuit trolls), but I do not think that calling people in a vulnerable emotional state as "weak scumbags" is fair or accurate.Devil's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10541884626112839842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-23910359756214131042013-03-29T05:36:46.352+03:002013-03-29T05:36:46.352+03:00What a load of bullshit this is. For you, sexist f...What a load of bullshit this is. For you, sexist feminazis, if one doesn't bow down to you to kiss your feet, you cry "rape". Oh, someone yelled at you? EMOTIONAL RAPE! You are all weak scumbags who can't get over anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-59620568422682069482012-11-24T18:12:14.348+03:002012-11-24T18:12:14.348+03:00It is so frustrating to even try to remove yoursel...It is so frustrating to even try to remove yourself from the clutches of an emotional rapist. The demon in my life was very intelligent, paranoid, and pathetic. He "knew" people were after him, so he would "protect" himself from everyone, including me, so we couldn't hurt him. <br /><br />He once told me, about three years before I even considered divorce, that I could "really screw" him in a divorce. Although, I had never brought it up, he had threatened to divorce me every couple of years for over twenty years. Every time I'd stand up for something, he'd accuse me of being a rebellious, wicked wife. I guess that made him feel divorcing me would be justly deemed "my fault" and relieve his conscience. <br /><br />Meanwhile, he embarrassed me in public, accused me of petty acts of revenge I later found out HE was doing, undermined my authority with my own children, and began a smear campaign to ruin my reputation with anyone who would listen.<br /><br />The end came when I told him I would no longer allow him to use a belt on our children because he couldn't control himself. From that moment on, the hatred was palatable. His middle-of-the-night activity started to involve shutting himself up in his tiny closet with his gun cabinet. I couldn't sleep. I was already having asthma systems at night that I found out later were stress induced. <br /><br />His emotions were chaotic as well as his plotting and planning. The result was constant surprise attacks. I developed PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)also. It's been three years, and I still have flashbacks and feelings of powerlessness from the brainwashing.<br /><br />The ongoing crime is what he's doing to the children. The oldest is beyond his meddling, for the most part. The second suffers the same bipolar/borderline personality systems as the father and thinks I'm as evil as he says or more so. Another is very compassionate and strong-willed. She is all but broken. I hurt for her so badly. Her brainwashing reminds me of the Stockholm syndrome. The others are somewhere between the first three, suffering symptoms of depression and anxiety due to their father's pervasive hopelessness.<br /><br />I want to scream and cry so often. The kids are teenagers now, teens that have been brainwashed their whole lives. Maybe you can imagine how that looks in life. It isn't pretty. There will be repercussions of their childhood their whole lives. I've done everything I knew to do, both while their father and I were married and after. I am a praying woman with a God that loves her, so I will trust Him to make up the difference. I have found He loves it when I rely on Him.Cherylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001811818534183982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-6239591854693197142012-10-31T06:50:26.750+03:002012-10-31T06:50:26.750+03:00I typed in "Emotional Rape" I figured if...I typed in "Emotional Rape" I figured if I felt this way, others certainly had. I lived with my boyfriend for 8 years. I never felt like he loved me. He would always tell me he did and basically to shut up, I was being stupid. Then he left me one day, got an apt behind my back.Thats when he told me he had not loved me in yrs. I actually fell onto the floor. 8 years...felt like my whole life had just been a total lie. I cried myself to sleep every night for years. People said to "get over it" I certainly wanted to. Felt so lied to, tried for days, weeks, months to figure it all out. Never got any answers from him. It was like he never existed. I thought he must've been a sociopath...he never did show empathy or normal emotons...always seemed hollow. Then I met someone else. It was totally different. He was my best friend, he communicated with me, he seemed loving and caring...everything I had been missing for 8 yrs. Then I found a pair of ripped thong underwear in his bedroom. He siad he had picked someone up online and he wanted to experiment with bondage and hitting them while having sex with them. Oh did I mention I also found out he was married with 2 kids? Hahaha...I finally started to recover from that...met a new guy...was proud of myself for being able to open my heart again, proud of myself for being able to move on and get up again. This guy seemed genuinely sweet and caring. He shared his stories of being hurt and he actually seemed to care for me. Really care for me. Said all the right things, was consistent. Things started to turn sexual. Soon he wanted a lot of pictures of me. This made me feel special at first, like attractive and wanted. Next thing I know he just wants more and more pictures. Every weekend rolls around and he comes up with excuses not to see me. I got very upset and asked what was going on. We had been forging this relationship for monthes. He dropped me like I was garbage. Not a word, not a phone call. I sent him texts asking what happened. He sent me one threatening to "leave him alone or else he is going to get very pissed off" So now I feel sick again. Blaming myself. Feel so betrayed, can't take it anymore. Tired of blaming myself. I tried to be trusting even after all I have been through. I tried to hope that someone was telling me the truth and could be a kind person. I feel so emotionally raped...by all of these situations. I think it's cumulative. I am now having panic attacks, I can barely work, I'm getting physically sick from it with stress. I keep trying to be "strong." I feel like I'm cracking at the seams now. This last incident just played out to it's finale the other day. Emotional Rape is real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-13707546101234953862012-06-16T18:11:19.820+03:002012-06-16T18:11:19.820+03:00I am not a psychologist to provide answers to what...I am not a psychologist to provide answers to what the driving motivation of those individuals is. It is probably just another way to control and hurt others, but rather than doing it through physical violence, it is done through psychological means.Devil's Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10541884626112839842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-33063867280158029092012-06-16T17:25:17.870+03:002012-06-16T17:25:17.870+03:00How does one categorise these rapists? are they ps...How does one categorise these rapists? are they psychopaths, socipaths or what? what is tgeir driving force? I have witnessed a situation that appears similar in the emotiondl sense but obviously detsils vary.<br /><br />however, time still brings agony to my colleague with the deepest suicidal despair with no one seeming to believe them and no support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-53948201499033169922012-02-24T00:00:19.046+02:002012-02-24T00:00:19.046+02:00I also am just realising with the help of a langua...I also am just realising with the help of a language to articulate that I too have been emotionally raped...it is true it starts off as grooming,then coercion ,then if you look like you wont comply then the body language and disappointment sets in...always had a vague feeling that i should somehow be grateful for him being faithful to me,which made me comply further.<br />he had multiple addictions too...gambling,sex and alcohol. a wolf in sheeps clothes.....more people need to come out and say whats going on.<br />I always felt guilty because i took it so long then used to react and have a meltdown...it all then got twisted round like i was the aggressor,when I was reacting in self defines and trying to fight an invisible enemy...I used to drink to give myself the confidence to cope with it...he's gone now and i dont feel i have chunks of my soul taken from me any more....he killed my spirit.....in the end my anger and rage saved me,...I still have flare ups of rage but not as often now...since i have a name for it and validation..i can now heal...xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9571647.post-81172715599283958962011-08-30T11:17:45.459+03:002011-08-30T11:17:45.459+03:00Mine wasn't a lover, in either case. Mine was...Mine wasn't a lover, in either case. Mine was a person who just got bored, or who had security issues of their own and took it out on me.<br /><br />It's very real, and I hear people still sigh about how I still haven't recovered.<br /><br />Once was when I was 14, a guy I knew and talked to on chats for a while. He made up a new friend, got me to know her. He never told me it was fake, but I found out when I returned to the message board we met on. I was devastated, but he kept playing it off like it was no big deal.<br /><br />The second, I was a caretaker for someone; they had me be maid, do everything, because, supposedly, her back was broken, and she needed attention all. the. TIME. I first thought we were buddies, but went home (I stayed intown, at least) with my family for my birthday for a couple weeks. When I came back... I had been since a liar, a thief, a rapist to one of her sons, she had me admit to things I did, things I did that stretched the truth, and things I never did but she made up in her mind I did. She starved me, started by saying I couldn't eat without asking, because I kept taking all her food (but she would gladly get more) and eventually all I got was a few crumbs of cereal a day, and a full dinner every Sunday, when her husband was home (a really nice man, but kind of dense.) I dropped from a size 16 (I'm a big girl) to a size 8/10. It destroyed me totally, but all I hear about how it was five years ago and I should be fine by now. I'm not, not if you had to see what I did. But no one else wants to see it that way...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com