Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Compersion: Polyamory Realized

Compersion is defined as taking joy in the joy of others. It is the opposite of envy, which is characterized by feelings of spite towards the joy of others. In the context of relationships it is the healthy alternative to jealousy.

Love is a joyous emotion. If a friend or somebody we care about falls in love, we'd be happy for them. We would share with them their joy, and wish them the best of luck, and sincerely hope it will work out for the best for them. We would take inspiration from their smiles and enthusiasm...

Isn't it odd that when people claim to be in love they would express intention of compersion, and tell their partners that their own happiness is elevated when their partner is happy, yet if their partner fell in love they would deny those feelings of compersion and indulge jealousy instead?!

Isn't it odd that some people can share the joy of love with friends and acquaintances, but not their significant others?!

6 comments:

Rain said...

No it's not lol

Devil's Mind said...

If you come to think about it, that's not something to laugh about. It is actually quite sad... To be stripped of humanity and love to the point of thinking that treating one's partner with hate and spite as something normal rather than odd!

Rain said...

Hey hey lalesh el 6a55

w b3dain shakkaktny b 7ali 3a fekra I thought I misunderstood the post and I read it again

No,sorry,no...my man will be MY man and if he fell in love well..yeah I will be happy for him bs y7ell 3anny,yroo7 y7ebb b3eed..

Devil's Mind said...

Why would you ask your partner to stay away? It's easy to tell people to piss off and go away if you don't truly love them... But if you actually love your partner, do you honestly think that is a healthy attitude?

Rain said...

Well obviously my definition of love is different from yours! :)

Devil's Mind said...

Okay then, so what's you definition of love? Feel free to use as many or as few words as you feel necessary.

My own definition is: "To think that the company of a given person is pleasant and joyous experience." - It is a very broad definition, but that's love in it's most general sense (IMO).

Another definition that I once heard and found to be quite useful was: "To see goodness and virtue in others!"