Wednesday, March 08, 2006

Behind The Walls Of Denial

Inspired by a fellow blogger's post (updated link), i decided to write about the different faces people adopt through their lives...

Each person has at least seven different egos (self-images) that define them:
1- Who you are. 2- Who you think you are.
3- Who you want others to think you are. 4- Who others think you are.
5- Who you hate to be. 6- Who you refuse to be.
7- Who you want to be.

In addition, person's attitudes differ with changing environments, or and his personality develops with time....

The seven faces describbed above are defined by the individual progressive experiences with the world around them; having conflicts amoung those self-images can sometimes be a serious problem.... For example, being a totally different person than the person you think you really are should introduce confusion, and shows lack of self-discovery; Thinking that you are the person you hate to be could lead to distorted self-image; And big differences between the person you are, and what you want others to think of you might leads to disapointment and eventually self-alienation.....

There are some other nessary masks that people need to stick to; Actually i dont like to call them masks, i prefer to call them "standards"; The standards should not be confused with nor lead to masking yourself...
The most important of these standards are the professional standards, for example, if you work at a public office, the client has no interest in your person: He just wants his papers done, so taking out your frustration, bitterness, and anger on that unrelated person is not acceptable....

The truth is, we all hide behind masks one time or the other; Be it a subtle masks, or masks that changes us unrecognizably; The cause of these masks can differ between insecurities, dishonesty, courtesy, or simply habbit.... That being said, i think it is important to recognize those masks we put on ourselves; Its probably unwise to randomly drop those masks, but recognizing them at least should help us see where we are leading ourselves.....

5 comments:

Ancient Clown said...

Yo Dude:

All that thinking has still left with me being who I AM.
As they are ALL,
ONE & THE SAME.
What a trip.
your humble servant,
I AM
Ancient Clown

Tala said...

Thanks a lot. Its very clear and helpful :)

Khalidah said...

Hey there ...

Long time I haven't seen you around my blog .. kinda missed ya

Thank you for linking to this post here; I have moved my blog and here is the new link, please amend it

http://www.anolitasmind.com/2006/03/03/we-are-lonely-people-%e2%80%a6-2/

Looking forward to seeing you around

Devil's Mind said...

Done: thanks for the notice! :D

Anirudh said...

wow...this was an awesome post...I liked the 7 egos especially...got this page randomly from google...glad I got it...I was searching for the three ones 'who you are, who you think you are and who others think you are' actually...it's so true that we've to mask ourselves sometimes for the greater good...:)...nice post..